Dear VL,
Based on your BaZi, your Day Master is an extremely strong Yang Earth. If you do find a life partner, your relationship with your spouse will be that of strong equals. This means that your spouse does not give in easily to your demands. He also expects to be treated equally. If you expect him to put your needs first, he would demand the same reciprocal treatment from you to make him feel likewise.
You still have many opportunities to look for a suitable life partner for marriage from the age 35 to 60 as the Wood element that controls the Day Master Earth and thus represents your husband (in BaZi terminology) can be found in the hidden stem of your Day Pillar. The Wood element can also be found in your 10-year luck periods from ages 36 to 60. So do not worry too much about the lack of opportunities and time. You still have them in your life destiny.
You are right to identify your problem as a change of your attitude. Your BaZi chart has strong Yang energy, so you can come across to the other parties as being too strong minded and emotionally aggressive. Learn to accept the weaknesses of your future partner, as everyone has weaknesses, nobody is perfect. Concentrate your energy instead on encouraging his strengths to magnify to greatness. Overtime, when the strengths of an individual are allowed to grow, the strengths will eventually edge out the weaknesses.
Regards
Aloysius
Ms VL DOB 26 July 1974, 11.55am
VL Wrote: Hi Aloysius Sim, My name is V, Female. My county of Birth is Saigon, Vietnam. DOB: 26 July 1974 Time 11:55. I am interested in learning of my love and marriage aspects in the next few years if possible. I would like to find someone special to share my life with. In the past I have not done very well in this area. Thank you for the reading. Any insights on this aspect my life would be greatly appreciated. …..I am too preset in my ways. I have very high expectactions of what I see as correct behavior from my other half, if the guy doesn't not or act the way I see as moral behavior I tend to sabatoge the relationship, more so with my words, although this was never my intention to begin with. I have a daughter with my last relationship and I had the best intentions for us to be as a family, but some how I ended up being a single mother and raising my daughter myself. I hope this give you a better idea. I know I cannot change the past. I would like to go forward and create a better future for us. If I could get an idea when it would be benificial to concentrate more energy in this area of my life and also to change my attitude for the better. Thank you very much for the reading. I found your site my doing a google search. Warmest regards, V.
